Today, I’d like to introduce you to a technique I often suggest to clients of my online counselling practice: writing a letter to themselves. Recently, during a counselling session, I again recommended this technique to a client. Why? Well, in this particular instance, my client experienced a significant improvement in her well-being compared to just a few weeks earlier, thanks to some unexpected events. Since she suddenly radiated with vitality and joy, maintaining this positive energy for as long as possible was the goal. The risk of the daily routine and, thus, the original problems returning was significant because, after all, nothing fundamental had changed about her circumstances, only her attitude had shifted temporarily. While this current state was undoubtedly wonderful, the potential of her psychological problems resurfacing remained. And this is where the idea of ​​writing a letter to oneself comes into play. In this post, I am going to introduce you to how you can leverage this practical exercise to support and strengthen yourself in difficult times. 



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What to consider when writing a letter to yourself


A letter to oneself is crafted from the present perspective and emotional state to the past and potentially future self. The objective is to encapsulate everything that appears clear and meaningful yet previously seemed unattainable or pointless. The letter serves as both a reminder and a source of support during challenging times.

When writing a letter to yourself, it’s essential to consider a few key points: Write the letter when you are feeling well. Take your time to create a supportive environment, perhaps using a nice pen and special paper. Select a comfortable and distraction-free environment for writing. Allow your thoughts to flow freely and express yourself as openly and intimately as possible. Store the letter in a secure yet easily accessible location. This ensures that you can revisit it whenever you’re feeling down or in need of encouragement.



Content of the letter to yourself


What should a letter to yourself entail? There’s no one-size-fits-all answer to this question. The content will vary depending on your unique situation and challenges. 

So, where do you begin? Consider how you feel during tough times. What messages do you want to convey to your future self from your current standpoint? What words of encouragement or insights might offer solace? What things do you wish to keep in mind? These could be your strengths, possible solutions, or ways you know how to make yourself feel better. Be empathetic and compassionate with yourself. Most importantly, store it in a readily accessible spot so you can easily retrieve it whenever necessary. Turn to it for guidance and comfort when you are feeling down.

This exercise helps activate our self-healing powers. By offering ourselves guidance and recalling our strengths and potential, we can more effectively navigate challenging times. 





Have you ever written a letter to yourself? Or do you regularly write in a diary? What experiences have you had with it? For more tips and tricks for your mental health, subscribe to my monthly newsletter!



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